Q: Are you an active Mormon?

A: Yes. I was born in Salt Lake City, UT and raised in the LDS church. I've been active my entire life. I served a mission, attended BYU, taught at the Missionary Training Center, was married in the temple, have taught relief society, gospel principles, gospel doctrine, and primary. I get jokes like, "That's shirt's a little low and behold, sister, don't you think?" and I am of the opinion that President Eyring's voice is one of the most comforting sounds in existence. I've even got polygamous ancestors. I'm as Mormon as it gets.

Q: Is your name really Imogen Frowfrow?

A: No. Imogen Frowfrow is a pen name birthed in a conversation with Mr. Fabulous (everyone here has a code name) post divorce where everything was hilarious because I'd cried for six days straight and was exhausted and, well, Mr. Fabulous is hilarious.

Q: You write on here a lot. If I only have a minute, where should I start?

A: The first entry titled "Embracing the Last Resort" succinctly explains the purpose of this blog. "My Story" (obviously) gives you a little info about how I ended up here. My personal faves would have to be "I don't understand" because the questions in it are so universal and it was a spiritual experience writing it, and "Love" because it reminds me of how much healing I have done.

Q: So, this is a site for divorced Mormons... Can I hang out if I'm not either of those things?

A: Absolutely. I'd be flattered.

Q: Is this site approved or sanctioned by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints?

A: Not in any way. This is the musings, opinions and life experiences of a regular lady who is a member of the LDS church and loves the doctrines. President Monson has no idea what I'm up to over here, though I like to hope he wouldn't object.

Q: Can I ask you a personal question?

A: Yep. That's what I'm here for.

Q: Do you recommend getting a divorce?

A: *Big sigh.
Only under certain circumstances. A marriage sealed in God's temple is something I still hold in the space in my heart that is set aside for the sacred. The divorce epidemic is concerning in 742 ways. When children are involved I can't even imagine how much more difficult that decision would be. I believe in exhausting all resources available to you and your spouse. I also know intimately the place where it is time. About 15 months of my 2 year marriage was spent trying to diagnose and resuscitate it. It was a miserable, lonely, heartbreaking, personality altering, horrible time... but it was nothing compared to the finality of my divorce. That being said, if you are in a place that is unhealthy in your marriage and you have exhausted all reasonable resources, I do believe ending a marriage can be what is best for all involved. I believe God knows our hearts. I know Christ has felt what we feel and will vouch for us. Personal health and well being must not be undervalued. I know of no way to destroy that so effectively as a truly unhealthy marriage endured for an extended period of time. "Adam fell that men might be, and men are that they might have joy." (2 Nephi 2:25)  That's a commandment too.

*Have more questions? Ask away!

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